Connecting the Dots.

It’s safe to say that I’ve read quiiiiiiiiite a few books about all things adoption. So one night I went back through some of my highlights from those books to see how what has resonated with me might support / not support our consideration of embryo adoption.

So tonight’s post, while perhaps a bit disjointed, is a way for to me connect all of those dots.

From “Adopt Without Debt” by Julie Gumm

*In the words of Dave Ramsey, “There is not one example in the Bible of God calling someone to do something and then using debt as a tool to accomplish it!” … ‘So why would He ask us to adopt and then make debt part of that process? …. The simple answer is, He wouldn’t.’

I read that at the beginning of our journey…and honestly tried to put it out of my mind. We owe quite a bit on school loans, and to save alone for an adoption would take us at least 3 years. :/ Selfishly, I couldn’t imagine waiting that long to even begin the process. However, when I look at it in light of the expenses / timeline of embryo adoption, the finances become much more doable.

I know that God could have something amazing in mind for helping us pay for our adoption….either way, we are called to be good stewards of what He has already given us.

From “This Momentary Marriage” by Jon Piper

*’The decision about whether to conceive children is not ultimately a decision about what is natural, but about what will magnify the Redeemer, Jesus Christ.’

Jesus is magnified through adoption…and since embryo adoption is something that is relatively unheard of, Christ has an opportunity to be magnified in a new and incredible way in the lives of those around us.

*’What is absolute is to pursue spiritual children, not natural children. Marriage is not absolutely for making children. But it is absolutely for making children followers of Jesus.’

This again supports adoption, and when you pair it with the truth that embryos are humans, created in the likeness of Christ, it supports embryo adoption.

From “Adopted for Life” by Russell Moore

*‘What if we as Christians were known, once again, as the people who take in orphans and make of them beloved sons and daughters?’

*’There seems to be an orphan-making urge among us, whether we see it in the slave culture of centuries past or the divorce culture of today.’

*’When it’s Jesus versus the self, babies are caught in the crossfire. And it’s always that way.’

*’When we adopt – and when we encourage a culture of adoption in our churches and communities – we’re picturing something that’s true about our God. We, like Jesus, see what our Father is doing and do likewise (John 5:19). And what our Father is doing, it turns out, is fighting for orphans.’

*’Because genuine faith is orphan-protecting, a culture of adoption and a culture of evangelism coexist together.’

There are over 600,000 embryos frozen right now…through fertility science we have literally created a new generation of orphans. Again I was brought back to the question of when life begins…and if it is at the fertilization of an egg to create an embryo {which I believe it is} then I am called as a follower of Christ to care for them as orphans.

*’Jesus is the one who tells us his Father is also “Father of the fatherless” (Ps. 68:5). He is the one who insists on calling “the least of these” his “brothers” (Matt. 25:40).

This particular point was very meaningful to me, and led me back to the Word to read from Matthew 25. All I could think as I read the King’s {Jesus’!} words…”Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” was…how much more ‘least of these’ can you get than a single cell embryo?!

From “Night Light Christian Adoptions: Our Ethical Obligation to Embryos”

*’Nightlight developed the Snowflakes program in order to give remaining frozen human embryos more respect than they were/are being given in the US and throughout the world.’

*’The Snowflakes program gives people with remaining embryos the opportunity to give those embryos life – life for which they were originally created. It gives the remaining embryos the greatest respect because they are being treated with the exact same standards applied to children who have already been born and are being adopted.’

*’The Snowflakes program was established to help bring about a moral solution to an immoral problem created by medical science: too many remaining embryos in frozen storage. It is a solution that promotes life and not death.’

Chris and I made the decision not to pursue in vitro because of our recognition that each embryo is life and our deep respect for each little one created by God. Because we could not settle within ourselves the possibility of ‘remaining embryos,’ we felt it was not God’s plan for us to grow our family through IVF of our own genetic children.

So here we are, considering the other side…once again recognizing and feeling a deep respect for the lives waiting in freezers for a chance to grow and live.

From “Joy in our Journey: a post entitled The Beauty of Grief”

*’If God had disclosed our entire job description when He first called Micah and me to adopt embryos, highlighting the sacrifices required to show love, dignity, and respect to our six little ones in order to bring them directly to Him in the end, I know in my heart I may not have been so quick to obey. …. Honestly, for the first time in days, I can say in retrospect that I would without a doubt do it all over again. Even though God has added to our family in a way we never expected, He has honored our request for more children. It gives the phrase “treasures in heaven” a far deeper meaning to all of us.’

This was tough to read…but I wanted to include it in today’s post because it really solidifies to me how seriously we are taking this… that we understand that to adopt embryos does not come with any ‘guarantees.’

*’Over the past few weeks, we have contemplated the way we view human life in this country and in the world at large and see now more than ever that this issue is much larger than us simply adopting. We have been called to give these frozen ones – the least of these – a voice in the world. Their presence is easy to ignore. …. They are the “leftovers” of reproductive technology and have a totally uphill battle. They cannot speak, cry, or call out to us. Their needs don’t make them a presence in the world that demands attention. We, on the other hand, have perfectly good voices and we desire to use them to the glory of God and for the good of these little ones.’

*’In our country, embryos aren’t legally recognized as life. If they were to be found on Mars in the form they exist now, the headlines would read “Life Found on Another Planet!” yet there is still debate.’

*’Of course, our view of these persons is not property, but bearers of the image of God (Genesis 1:27) and known by Him before He ever created them (Psalm 139:16, Jer 1:5).

Is this girl not right on or what?! 🙂

*’Some believers we have talked with wonder why we shouldn’t first care for those orphans already living and breathing. Our question is, do we believe what we say we believe about life or not? We are called to love and care for orphans – all of them – and each in a way so they all have advocates.’

Honestly, I have struggled with the fact that if we move forward with embryo adoption, not everyone will get it. Not everyone will recognize it as adoption. I’m afraid they’ll see it as “the easy way out” (since I’ll have the opportunity to carry the baby) rather than as a road that promises to be anything but easy.

But I have to keep reminding myself…that it’s not about them. It’s not even about me. It’s about God. It’s about His truths. It’s about what He wants to do. Not everyone ‘got’ Jesus. {And even today, not everyone ‘gets’ Him.} If this is the path for us, I will learn to draw strength from God in situations where others might disagree or not understand…and will learn more and more to point back to Him.


That’s all for tonight. It’s a lot to think on as it is. 🙂

Blessed am I.


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